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Was Acceptable Until I Wasn't — And I'm Still Going Forward

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Was Acceptable Until I Wasn't — And I'm Still Going Forward

Rejection can become part of your story without becoming the definition of your story. Kelli writes from the middle of the hard — not the other side.

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Kelli Frederick, M.A.
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The last few days have been hard.

Not inspirational hard. Not the kind of hard that gets wrapped up neatly with a motivational quote.

Just hard.

I've been dealing with my teeth. I've dealt with losing a car. I've dealt with disappointment, uncertainty, and another door closing when I genuinely believed I had done what I needed to do to walk through it.

And yes, I've been depressed.

I'm human.

There are moments when everything happening at once becomes heavy. There are moments when even someone who spends her life encouraging other people has to admit, this hurts.

One of the hardest things to process is being told that you're acceptable — and then suddenly being treated as though you're not.

I was accepted.

Life and health interrupted my path.

When I was ready to return and said, "I can do this," the answer became no.

I don't have to pretend that makes sense to me.

I don't have to pretend it didn't hurt.

But I also don't have to allow somebody else's decision to become the final sentence of my story.

Rejection can become part of your story without becoming the definition of your story.

So I'm moving forward.

I'm still fighting for my health.

I'm still fighting for permanent dental care that allows me to eat, speak, work, and live with dignity.

I'm still building Empowerment Coaching Global.

And I'm still pursuing my doctorate.

The university may change.

The dream does not.

At 56 years old, I have survived enough to understand something I didn't always know:

Sometimes the next chapter begins because a door opened.

And sometimes the next chapter begins because somebody slammed one in your face.

Either way, you still get to decide whether you keep walking.

I do.

I'm not writing this from the other side where everything has magically worked out. I'm writing it while I'm still becoming. While some things still hurt. While some answers still haven't arrived.

That's the human part of empowerment.

You don't have to feel powerful every day to continue moving forward.

Sometimes courage looks like getting up after two terrible days and opening another application.

Sometimes purpose looks like saying:

Okay. That didn't work. What's next?

Today, what's next is Penn State.

Tomorrow may bring something else.

But I'm still here.

My story isn't over.

My voice still matters.

And what tried to stop me does not get the final say.

I pivot. I don't quit.

LIVE. DON'T JUST EXIST.

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Kelli Frederick, M.A.

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